Calling all of my fellow military spouses: You need to join your FRG.
You don’t have to believe me right now, but I’m sure by the end of this article you will.
What are Family Readiness Groups?
For those that don’t know already, FRG is the acronym for the Family Readiness Group. They are an incredible resource for spouses.
Outside of providing information about schedules and passing information along that is sent down from the commanders, they hold a number of events for spouses to enjoy. They’re similar to the adult-friendly version of a PTA.
Common FRG Responsibilities
Generally, the FRG leaders with the upmost responsibility are the First Sergeant’s and Captain’s wives. You can consider them to be the president and vice president.
Like other committees, responsibilities extend outside of the president and vp. Our FRG has a treasurer, event coordinator, fundraiser coordinator, and meal-train coordinator for expecting mamas in the company. There are also key-callers, and their job is to call and check on a certain number of spouses each month.
Enlisted spouses are welcome to join the FRG board, and they’re highly encouraged to do so. I serve as the co-treasurer and fundraiser coordinator on the Family Readiness Group.
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My first event
I still remember my first FRG event. I got the invite through an email, and I signed myself up. It was a wine and design event on a Friday night. I signed up quickly like I was all in, but in reality I told my husband 100 times that there was no way I was going.
Friday crept up on me and I had prepaid, so I had no other option but to attend. (If ya know me– I don’t waste money lol!)
The little paint shop was only about 20 minutes from our apartment, but we were new to the area, so I had no idea where I was going. I left early to make sure I wasn’t awkwardly walking in late, but in reality I ended up awkwardly sitting in the parking lot early. Ugh!
I didn’t know any of the wives that had signed up with the exception of one sweet soul that I had reached out to, and unfortunately she moved not long after.
I overthought the entire situation. Sure, some wives stuck with the people they knew, and overlooked my presence, but it was the one wife that went out of her way to greet me and talk to me that changed my entire outlook. (I do not blame those people for not talking to me! You stick with a group of people that make you feel comfortable and that is human nature!)
When I walked in she asked for my name, welcomed me to the event, and checked in with me throughout the entire night. Every single time that woman saw me after that event, she greeted me with the most genuine smile and asked me how I was doing. She made me feel comfortable, and truly welcome.
You need to join
Joining the FRG has given me the chance for an immense amount of volunteer opportunities. You can do a little, or you can do a lot! I started off as a key caller, and about three months later I got much more involved as I listed above.
With that being said, you don’t have to commit yourself as deeply as I have! Maybe you only have time to be a key caller, and that is totally fine. People go in and out of seasons in their life where they have the ability to volunteer.
Some move.. Others have children.. You volunteer when YOU can!
Join your FRG!
Having a group of spouses who truly understand what you’re going through makes this crazy life just a little bit easier.